Written by: Coleen Ellis
Have you ever noticed that non-pet lovers are the ones who have the loudest, crassest, harshest rules when it comes to grieving over a beloved pet? Why are the rules written and delivered by those who don’t even understand the love, and subsequently the grief, associated with the death of a pet?
For this week, permission to do you, to do what you need to do to honor a loved pet, and to ignore those who just don’t get it. The fact is if these people don’t understand the bond we share with a pet when they are living, then they will certainly dismiss our deep feelings when these pets die. And the death of a loved pet is certainly not the time to figure out how to convince these same people of all of the reasons you loved them and now are mourning them.
Permission to ignore these people. Let’s face it, there are going to be some people who are meant to walk with us in certain situations, and others that are not meant to be a part of various journeys in our life. To be shamed for the love, the grief, the emotions, and the grief bursts that will happen for the rest of our lives is not healthy.
Find those friends, family members, colleagues, and acquaintances who WILL get it. Who will be a healthy listening ear to you when your heart has been broken. Turn to those that will walk with you, who won’t question “why” you feel this way, and insist it’s time to “get over” the loss. Sometimes we just don’t know the answers to the “why” of loving a pet, and how deep the grief might be. That’s the beauty of loving a pet! Sometimes there are just no reasons as to why we love them so deeply, we just do.
And getting over a loss. That’s never going to happen.
So permission to ignore those who don’t get it. We get it. Turn to us, or anyone else who is madly in love with their four-legged family members. Turn to us. We get it, and respect it.